I’ve been with my husband for a long time - it’ll be 25 years this September. We only got married 3 years ago, and it was because I needed to go on his health insurance so I could retire. We were both happy with not being married, and also both fine with tying the knot once we saw an actual reason to do it. We didn’t have a wedding, we just self-united (something you can do in Pennsylvania thanks to Quaker tradition) and filed the paperwork with the state. We don’t wear rings and I kept my name. Literally nothing changed other than my health insurance.

Until we got married, a lot of people seemed really unable to understand why I didn’t care about getting married. In the beginning there was a lot of external pressure/expectation on us to get married, which did die off after a while. I’m really glad that we did it on our own terms when it made sense to us, rather than caving to societal expectations.

Same. I knew from a very young age that I didn’t want kids and that has never changed. I got my tubes tied in 2006 and never looked back!

I mean, duh. Baked beans are stupidly sweet.

Sadly no, I had a dog but had to put her to sleep last year. She was the best 💜 I do plan to get two puppies probably next year though. :)

This weekend I’m at my folks’ house petsitting their cat, who is a floofy little purr machine!

What’s your favorite comfort food recipe to cook?

I wore a Blossom hat to school. I had just started junior high and it was like the third day of the school year. I had this brand new crushed velvet hat with little pink rosebuds and I was so excited to wear it. I paired it with a satin floral vest, a pink turtleneck, and a pair of stirrup pants, as was the style at the time, and strutted into school knowing I was stylin’.

I had no idea there was a rule against hats, and in homeroom, in front of everyone, my battleaxe of a homeroom teacher yelled at me: “Who told you you could wear a hat?!” To which little timid me said “… my mom?” And she yelled “You know you’re not allowed to wear hats in school, take that off right now! I don’t want to see it again!” And I almost fucking cried.

Thanks for embarrassing me in front of everyone, Mrs. DeFilippo.

Do you have any pets?

My favorite thing about myself is that I’m creative. I’ve lost touch with that a little bit but I’m working my way back to it. I used to love drawing, painting, and making things like colored pencil art, abstract design art, Christmas decorations, beaded jewelry - I was always making something. Now I mostly express my creativity with makeup and nails. And I’ve just started picking up woodworking - so far I’ve only built a chair for my deck, but the goal is to make all my deck furniture*, plus a new enclosure for my veggie/fruit garden!

* There’s a lot to make! A second chair, a sectional to match, a propane firepit with a cement top and matching tank cover, an outdoor dining table with 8 chairs… and I’m considering getting a sewing machine and learning to make cushions for all the seating!

I feel that. I’m stubborn as hell which often translates as persistence. But sometimes I’m persistent about the wrong things!

I love to see quirky women who don’t feel the need to dim their shine just because society expects us to conform. You go girl!

Holy shit I never stopped to think about the Wizard of Oz in that way!

Luckily I haven’t been in this situation. I feel so badly for women who have, it looks draining and stressful.

Are you the same young German dude who has made similar posts to this under alts a bunch of times already? I feel like I started seeing these months ago.

I actually love that because you can add your own color with paint, throw rugs, furniture, etc. It allows you to start from a blank canvas.

For contrast, my parents’ house has one bathroom with a mustard yellow toilet and yellow-and-white floor tile, and another bathroom with an avocado green toilet and matching shower enclosure. These were put in by the previous owner and date back to the '70s. They’re in perfectly good shape, so my folks don’t want to replace them, but it does force them to decorate those rooms with complementing colors, and they will never not look dated.

Agreed, but if it said “Make it so” I’d totally be on board.

Sitar!

Holy shit she’s in her early thirties! Why do all these MAGA women get such awful fillers?

Make it look like they’re sweating and watch as their shitty Just For Men dyejob runs…

Pretty lady’s still rocking the waterfall braid! Give her a carrot for me :)

Minimalistic, clean lines. I don’t like a lot of detailing or filigree on things because it just collects dust and makes it so much more work to keep things clean. No curtains and only a limited amount of tchotchkies for the same reason. Other than that, I like a lot of grey, blues, and greens, with the occasional pop of something bright. Soft, textured fabrics for duvet, throw pillows, and area rugs.

Between this and the one you had put in a few weeks ago, your taste in wallpaper is on point!