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I hate bioreactionaries I hate bioreactionaries I hate bioreactionaries I hate bioreactionaries I hate bioreactionaries.
True but in this case his office was just referencing a court ruling
Guess my Canadian trans ass is boycotting the UK now too. It’s been a long time coming anyway, Terf Island.
(Sorry Scotland, you’re cool but also in a toxic relationship I can’t be around right now. I hope we can be friends again some day)
Mind your own damn business you archaic old fuckwit.
What an absolute coward. Bowing down to the USA because Trump told him to. Fucking coward.
Old man shouldn’t get a say in what a woman is.
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Can we not just have gender neutral bathrooms and changing rooms and be done with it?
“But what about MtF people going into sports?” Just put a fucking asterisk by their name on the leader boards.
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Its so tiring of people trying to patch problems with “gendered bathrooms”, “train cars only for women”, “women parking lots” rather than actually solving real problems. These band aids should be a temporary solutions at best but here we are - argueing about gendered bathrooms in 2025.
The worst when people try to spin these as some sort of innovation. Especially for gendered train cars here in Japan was such a huge thing and I couldn’t help but eye roll when instead of addressing perverts they just herd women into protected pens and put camera noise default on every smartphone that take 10 minutes to disable by actual criminals.
train cars only for women
Good thing nobody can actually suggest that in this day and age. Because that’s a concept that makes everyone immediately go “Ooooh, how delightfully 1800s. Wait, why are we doing this, I thought we were better than that.”
…If someone actually suggests that, have them be detained by a few chimney sweeps until the police arrives by horse carriage.
nah that’s just you guys americans. This suggestion is still widely considered in most places. The problem is that it turns from a temporary patch to a “solution”.
Shopping mall next to me just added a parking floor for women only instead of hiring more security guards which here Thailand are incredibly cheap and honestly a real joy to have around. In the west people would say “it’s a pointless job” but having someone maintain order and vibe of a place is much more effective and important than girl trains.
There are just so many of these populist examples that people have their brains hijacked by. Once you start paying attention you just can’t wait for AI overlords to take over cause we’re really not good at this.
A lot of women/girls would be uncomfortable with having to share a bathroom with men/boys.
Same argument that was made for gay people sharing locker rooms, bigots never get new material. If you’re not comfortable sharing a bathroom with someone, then, ya know, you don’t have to use it.
Why is it queer people have to suffer for bigotry? Why not just be less of a bigot?
They can always stay home
A lot of people are uncomfortable with bigots leaving reddit and joining lemmy.
You put the handwashing station in an open area, visible to the hallway.
You put floor to cieling stalls for the actual doing your business part.
I have been to a lot of places that do this and nobody cares. It is an added level of safety that you are either in private or visible to passers by.
To be totally honest: I like the current divided setup for the purely selfish reason of the men’s toilet being less occupied than the women’s toilet at most places with a lot of people.
But that would mean that in average it would be a net benefit to use non divided ones, since then the empty stalls would be used.
You’d have to smooth that over with the people who have problems sharing bathrooms with the opposite sex and the businesses that have to build the infrastructure.
There are plenty of places where nobody cares, like campgrounds. But there are other places where people care a lot, like schools.
I just visited a high school that does exactly this, and no one cares.
In fact they like it better.
That’s great.
Does that mean nobody cares anywhere else?
It’s also impressive that such a consensus can be reached among dozens to hundreds of students. Not a single person cares? They all like it better?
There will always be somebody who doesn’t like something. But you normalize things and then people adapt.
They like it better because they feel it is more private.
Nobody cares about washing their hands or fixing thier hair or whatever in front of others, and the appreciate that when they are doing the business part their is a completely private space.
You seem to be operating under the assumption that there is any context in which your interlocutor would accept trans people being treated like people.
Guess what? Trans women also don’t feel comfortable using men’s bathrooms or sharing bathrooms with men. Because trans women are women.
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It’s the truth, not a belief.
Yeah, religious people say the same things.
Well unlike religion, science supports this truth. Decades of science and listening to trans people and their lived experiences.
Oh, are we banning Christians from bathrooms on the basis that you disagree with them? Maybe Muslims make you uncomfortable and you don’t want them near women?
Sincerely, what is your argument here, “I don’t believe you, so what you said is invalid it’s a religion.”? Trans women are women. I don’t understand how that is a debate or why you think it’s equivalent to some religion, it’s an assertion of identity.
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Wow, the mods literally banned this person for saying “That’s your belief and you’re entitled to it.”
If that’s not mod abuse to support an agenda, I don’t know what is.
Maybe it’s because trans women are women
Well, anyone who disagrees is banned so you don’t really get to see different perspectives.
I guess it’s all intentional. You don’t want people discussing it because in your head the discussion is already done and you don’t want anyone to disagree with a conclusion that you like. Pretty scummy, but that’s to be expected.
What do you think a trans woman is, if not a woman?
There is no point debating with people whose views exist on the same side as the nazis currently occupying the US.
Because trans women are women.
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Your comment was removed for endorsing transphobia, now you’re temp banned for repeating it.
That’s weird cuz most of them do it at home.
Not with strangers and not at the same time.
Are you implying that in public restrooms people share the same stall?
Also the strangers thing ain’t exactly solved by having one gender bathroom is it? So that seems like a moot point to me.
No, they share the same room.
I’m not trying to justify their reasons, so there’s not much of a point in trying to argue with me.
If you think women have no reason to be afraid or uncomfortable sharing bathrooms with men, that’s fine. A significant portion of them will disagree with you, though. If you are unsure of or question their reasoning, you’d be better off communicating with them since I do not share their sentiment.
Edit: I just got a reply from RedSeries saying trans women are afraid to share bathrooms with men. Perhaps you can discuss with she/her about the merits on why.
In the scenario I described to you trans people are much more comfortable than have 2 sex bathrooms.
A single sex bathroom means there is no choice that need to be made. They do not have to present as anything, nor be judged as anything. It is simply a person in a public room, and a private room for the private time.
It also means (as I described it) the sharing of the hand washing mirror facilities are barely different than being in the hallway. Do people share hallways? Of course. So this open to the public space adds a level of protection.
Then for the private space it is single use. One person.
I feel like I am having a hard time getting this across, and I don’t know why.
I feel like I am having a hard time getting this across, and I don’t know why.
Because they’re just moving the goalposts until you “slip” and say something that confirms their biases against you. Being “right” is never the goal.
I really have it with those old white men.
Why can’t you just shut up if you are incapable of adjusting your world view to the 21st century?
As an old white man, I completely agree. It’s not always easy to change old habits, but people’s refusal to even try is infuriating.
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If you don’t respect my trans homies, I’m gonna identify as a problem.
I hope you get everything you deserve.
Edit: Ha! Huff my duff, Nazi trash.
Say that where people can, cowardly bigot.
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I don’t believe Keir Starmer is Labour. Fight me.
The only way for Labour to govern under first past the post is to appeal to the center.
Unfortunately our country is disgustingly conservative and the right wing have always been far better organised, it probably helps they have the media on side.
Starmer is actually doing a surprisingly ok job. The austerity he’s pushing is tedious as fuck but if he weren’t keeping an eye on economics we’d be drowning in hysteria about “magic money trees” and labour dragging the country in to debt.
The employment rights bill will be an incredible improvement for working people. I wish it went a lot further but it’s a solid start.
Unless labour support electoral reform we are doomed to an eternity of right wing government. Labour only got into power last year because reform split the vote, and very soon the reform and conservatives will merge together again.
From a German perspective he awfully seems like a Tory
Isn’t that why he helped remove actual labour people to make new, now more tory labour?
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Remeber how when there was a fight for gay marriage a good portion of people said they didnt mind the legal concept and just wanted to call it “civil unions” and we totally did that as a first step to placate those people before going full on equal marriage…
I wonder why the approach to trans rights has been so all or nothing with people It seems like there is no real desire for progress from eithet side the way things stand now.
What is there to compromise here? Every building with gendered facilities has to build a third set of toilets for trans people? The government has to build a third set of prisons for trans people?
An example of compromise would be to acknowledge that trans women are biologically different from cis women.This is not an extreme or hateful idea. Other issues like sports or bathrooms can still be nuanced discussions that acknowledge peoples concerns and work to educate rather then alienate. Acceptice means different things to different people and it wont come all at once.
To compare a similar example imagine someone who comes out as gay to parents in the 90s: strict chrisitan parents might kick them out of the house and youd never speak to them again, or they could face the type of conservative parents who say “well i dont agree with it but i still love you”. Whch would you rather have? Which one would potentially lead to a potentially better outcome/changed mind?
It seems to me that completely alienating people who have reasonable objections to relatively new ideas is not the best way to go, its what people without empathy do.
Well, that whole civil union thing didn’t really work out so well and those same people were still (and are still) homophobic to the extreme so why give them anything? They are clearly not interested in compromises anyway.
It certainly did work out in many countries, which transitioned from it to Marriage for all in the end
Thanks to the people who were in favor of marriage equality in the first place, not thanks to the bigots who wanted “civil unions” instead. Those are even more vicious in their bigotry these days.
And why the fuck is there a compromise position at all? Bigots don’t have a right to discriminate against people. If they don’t want to get on board they can fuck off.
What happens when that attitude ends up creating more biggots and we find ourselves even more outnumbered. I dont know what the best solution is but surely its not to alienate a full third of the entire population and expect that to work out well for everyone.
On a personal one to one level i do agree they can fuck off. But from an observing the reality of living in a country that just elected a fascist, im worried all the demanding people accept things they disagree with lest they be shunned, its just going to lead to more pushback against trans and other vulnerable people.
I dont know what the best solution is but surely its not to alienate a full third of the entire population and expect that to work out well for everyone
A full third of the population is already alienated. It’s not working well for anyone. I’m simply saying we should leave a full third behind in the dust if they don’t want to give up bigotry. These people are not helpless, they know that they’re wrong, and they’re doing this shit anyway. Compromising with them is exactly why we elected a fascist.
And to be clear, conservatives drove this, they had a million opportunities to turn around, and refused every time. I’m not the one who brought us here.
Again i agree with this 100% on a personal level, my concern is just that it seems like that third is growing and the other side is shrinking due to increasing in fighting. Im not really sure what the solution for that is, i just think its a bad trend and leads to more hostility.
How didnt it work out? It lead to eventually getting marriage equality world wide, in large part because those first states tried to do civil unions.
By your logic, when they freed the slaves, they really should’ve done it slowly instead of all at once, because look how many racists it made!
Or was civil rights too fast as well?
Im not sure you have my logic correct… Im not saying we should do things slower, im saying its concerning how black or white everything has gotten, everyone has purity tests and if you dont pass you arent worth engaging with and im concerned that will have a lot of negative consequences and lead to increased hostility.
I am sharing an observation, not suggesting a solution. I am saying the way things are is concering and while i hope for a positive outcome (one where people are accepted for who they are) i see a lot more pushback than acceptance with the current strategy/mindset.
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That’s only if they choose not to get bottom surgery.
Why are they trying so hard to prove it, if it’s the obvious truth? I never saw my mother and sister having to prove or defend the point that they are women.
Well, regardless of my standpoint, I might not like what you have to say but I will for sure fight for your right to say it. Same goes for everyone.
If you spent more than five minutes looking into this you’d understand that there’s a whole lot more to it than presentation. Some people are born intersex. Some biological women are born with two xx chromosomes. Some biological men are born with xy chromosomes. Etc etc. It’s nice that your mom and sister have it all clear. A good portion of humanity has to fight to explain their place every day
I never saw my mother and sister having to prove or defend the point that they are women.
Is anybody saying that they aren’t?
Why are they trying so hard to prove it, if it’s the obvious truth?
It’s unclear, and quite important, who you mean by “they” here.
The ones who try to pass something that’s not a common sense as a common sense.
And I’m still not sure whether you mean the “your gender is the sex you’re born with” people or the “trans women are women” people.
Yes - that’s what I mean.
