I used to be in r/lonely and similar subs on reddit but I’ve been shadowbanned for no good reason.

Where can I find some people here to talk with me when things get rough?

Thanks :)

  • haui@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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    1 day ago

    Well, it depends. Often I see people ask for this who want to take but not give, which can get you banned in the best case and destroys a community in the worst case.

    Loneliness often comes from particular experiences like not being able to share good things or rant about bad things.

    But that is a symptom, not the cause. The cause is missing connection. There are possible neurological reasons for connections deteriorating (i would know) but if one makes themselves aware of this, they can try to counter this.

    If you want to be listened to, related to, helped and understood, you need to do that for others. The rest will mostly come on its own. If that does not come naturally (again, i would know) you have to make an effort to do it.

    After that is clear, I would suggest chat groups, not forums as forums are much more loose and dont allow for a deep connection imo. Depending on your personal identity, you can find chats which takes a thing you all share and makes it a topic to connect about. I suppose participating for a month will get you decent connections to share outside experiences with. Again, it needs to be mutual to work.

    I hope this helps. Have a nice day.

    • viciouslyinclined@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      1 day ago

      Thanks for your insightful comment. Yes, there are probably some better places to talk. I have been considering psychology recently to help with my problems.

      However, sometimes at ungodly hours in the morning, I just need someone to talk to who is there and awake. I was hoping to find a community here for that while reddit has me shadowbanned.

      • haui@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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        1 day ago

        First of all, good idea to get help on tackling issues. Second, i still think you might benefit much more from a chat than a forum. A safe space where your opnion does not need to be “well rounded” to be engaged in a respectful manner will do much more good than a public thread. Again, in my opinon.

        In any case, good luck.

          • haui@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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            1 day ago

            Whole platforms to be honest. Since you’re already out of corpo land, lets keep you out. Matrix is the best I can think of since it combines a lot of positives. I dont know other decentralized group chats except maybe IRC. You can download apps for matrix on matrix.org, apps for irc you will find on your favorite search engine or if youre a linux user, the software store. Mobile phones and tablets of course have them too.

            Then you check for your topics. Mental health, specific neurological things, interests, etc. Go from there.