I basically have no idea how a person moves to another country and just starts talking at other people.
The same way you talk to people in any new place you move to, regardless of if it’s the same country, state, or even city.
It sounds like they’re just bothering random people because they think everyone wants to be their friend.
I don’t think that’s what was being talked about at all. That said, that’s not always a bad thing either! Sometimes it is ok to just go up to random people and talk to them. If they engage with you, then great, you have a conversation. If they don’t, then you take a hint and walk away.
I apologize for making assumptions here, but I’m guessing that you’re a) on the autism spectrum (so am I), and b) have social anxiety at least partly because of it (I definitely did). But, it’s not always rude to just go up to someone and talk to them. Honestly, there are situations where it can be appropriate in nearly any context.
I think it’s generally an autistic thing to come up with a set of internal guidelines that we use to determine when and when not to talk to someone. Sometimes those guidelines end up erring too far on the side of “don’t do, too risky”.
I know it can be hard to figure out how to navigate social situations, especially since learning requires doing and that’s the scary part, but the only way to learn is to put yourself in those situations in the first place. Just remember that for neurotypical people, whether or not something is appropriate is purely “vibes-based”, using a set of fuzzy guidelines they don’t even know they have. If you can figure out even approximately what those guidelines are, you’ll be ok in the vast majority of situations.
The same way you talk to people in any new place you move to, regardless of if it’s the same country, state, or even city.
I don’t think that’s what was being talked about at all. That said, that’s not always a bad thing either! Sometimes it is ok to just go up to random people and talk to them. If they engage with you, then great, you have a conversation. If they don’t, then you take a hint and walk away.
I apologize for making assumptions here, but I’m guessing that you’re a) on the autism spectrum (so am I), and b) have social anxiety at least partly because of it (I definitely did). But, it’s not always rude to just go up to someone and talk to them. Honestly, there are situations where it can be appropriate in nearly any context.
I think it’s generally an autistic thing to come up with a set of internal guidelines that we use to determine when and when not to talk to someone. Sometimes those guidelines end up erring too far on the side of “don’t do, too risky”.
I know it can be hard to figure out how to navigate social situations, especially since learning requires doing and that’s the scary part, but the only way to learn is to put yourself in those situations in the first place. Just remember that for neurotypical people, whether or not something is appropriate is purely “vibes-based”, using a set of fuzzy guidelines they don’t even know they have. If you can figure out even approximately what those guidelines are, you’ll be ok in the vast majority of situations.