For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i’m just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

  • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
    3·
    25 days ago

    i guess I didn’t explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.

    your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources?

    I’m sorry, I’m not going to divulge my personal financial details on the open internet. Why does this number matter to our discussion? I appreciate if you’re trying to offer financial or life planning advice. I don’t think I’m in need, but I appreciate your concern.

    I’ll say this. On this chart, I believe I am past the fourth level (Esteem) and working on number 5 (self actualization).

    there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck.

    Getting the job initially is a whole series of lucky events sometimes decades in the making.

    There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn’t leave you.

    Not only do you have do work hard on keeping relationships (this is part of the 25% I was talking about) you have to live to enjoy it. Further, your mate has to live and there’s all kinds of things that can happen to them through no fault of their own (this is part of the 75% luck I was talking about earlier).

    i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.

    There is a tiny tiny fraction you can do to keep/improve your health vs the vast majority of the things in this world trying to kill you or make you sick/injured. I’d change the percentages on this even further: 10% in your control to 90% luck.

    • bluGill@fedia.io
      1·
      24 days ago

      I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

      i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don’t always agree)

      • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
        3·
        24 days ago

        I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria.

        Gotcha, I wasn’t trying to put words in your mouth. My apologies for misunderstanding your question.

        if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

        All of those examples assume you’re starting from a reasonably high baseline of stability, mental & physical health, resources, and likely education. My point is that you can’t assume those things. Lots and lots of people aren’t even lucky enough to have that starting baseline to even start working toward any of those achievements in your examples.

        That’s why I said that my particular personal goals are irrelevant, but where I’ve gotten most would look at and define it as successful, and that I recognize that so many points on that path I was lucky to have the “upside” outcome rather than the “downside” outcome which would have left me far less successful, or at worst, dead. It really doesn’t take many of the inflection points in our lives to not go our way for us to be knocked way down or knocked out entirely. I am very lucky that hasn’t been my fate.