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Cake day: November 17th, 2024

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  • I have recently applied for a junior computer scientist position in Europe, U.S., and China. The Chinese employer give me an offer immediately, with almost the same salary as Europe and U.S. In addition to that, the Chinese institute promised me a clear path of advancement, which is not included in my Europe and U.S. offers.

    My current employer in Europe is a famously well-paying institute, but my salary is only minorly higher than my Chinese offer, in a much more expensive city than Beijing, and I have went through a lot of crap moving to Europe.

    The Chinese government is investing a crap ton of money and resource into computing, while the U.S. is denying visa for top talents, I cannot imagine many people will make the same choice as I did, especially when they spent most of their lives in China.













  • I am not sure, and I didn’t mean to imply that is the cause. I don’t have a lot of male Chinese friend, so I don’t have any data in that department.

    However, to be completely frank, I sometimes feel that now Chinese female are subject to much higher social expectation, which are likely to be reflect on social media, thus amplifying their anxiety.

    But I certainly have plenty of female friends that doesn’t use rednote, and they are doing fine. (except one on twiter, and she also says that she is pretty anxious about it 🤣


  • I am sincerely glad your daughter is having fun, but I have several female friends who are trapped in the toxic spiral of rednote and cannot quit.

    I have not been on any Chinese social media for years, so I looked it up. From what I read on the Chinese internet, they have a tendency to serve wholesome content to people at first, then switch to toxic content to encourage consumption. As many westerners don’t know, rednote is a shopping-guide app, and they make money from it.

    You can read more about their practise toward consumption and their history on wikipedia: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xiaohongshu and many post on the Chinese internet claim they are “selling anxiety”, which I mentioned in my previous comments.

    I hope they don’t do it to non-Chinese people and I really hope people like your daughter can continue to have fun wherever they are. Your daughter seems to have more control about social media tha my friends, so I hope she can quit when the app stopped working for her.