EGS finally has a shopping cart now, so it’s basically equal now, right?

Unless it dives with you in its mouth.

Tory Bruno, CEO of ULA wears a cowboy hard hat. Clearly this is how you become rich.

The 4 freedoms of open source per RMS apparently dont include calling your project whatever you want to call it. You have to run that past him.

The first few years of self hosting tend to have a lot of experimentation, so the overlap is natural.

I’m hitting my grumpy old man phase of self-hosting where I want my Minecraft server and Jellyfin to to be stable so I don’t have to hear about it from my family. So ironically, my setup is starting to look more like an overkill setup because I want to self host with stability instead of tinkering around to see if I can run a different server distro, etc. My home lab years got me to find a real nice base, but now I just add things to that base and I don’t mess with the formula I have.

IMO the distinction is that if you are doing it for fun (or education) and could afford to lose any service you run for an extended period, you’re home labbing. If you are doing it for cost savings, privacy, anti-capitalist, or control reasons and the services are critical and need to stay up, you’re self-hosting.

tl;dr - experimentation vs utility

XMPP has been an option for decades, if your contacts aren’t using it by now, they arent going to. And with communications tools, both parties have to agree on a tool. Even if one party doesn’t care about privacy or security.

Raw brute force security isn’t the point most of the time, and ease of use and simplicity of setup are going to be major factors in adoption. Signal is much easier to get started with for most people than XMPP.