There are more detailed answers here and I don’t have any personal experience to add but just based on your question I would suggest you stop drinking entirely.

It doesn’t sound like you have a good relationship with alcohol. It isn’t something you share with friends or a “hobby” like wine or whiskey tasting. It sounds like something you just do kind of as a habit.

You aren’t an alcoholic… yet. If you could afford beer when it wasn’t on sale would you drink a lot more? If you had free access to infinite beer how much would you drink? It kind of sounds like the answer to those questions might be “A lot” which is bad.

It sounds like alcohol is already having a negative impact on your life. Do you agree with that statement generally? Skipping positive healthy things for a beer is pretty objectively bad.

Honestly just stop now while you can. Just stop buying beer. Even on sale it’s a waste of money. Nothing against you but this does read like a post someone would look back on and say “I was right and I should have stopped while I could.”

You have the freedom to do whatever you want but if you’re asking random internet strangers if you have a drinking problem the answer is almost certainly yes. Not a big problem but why take the chance? Alcohol just isn’t that great.

Hello,

Others have given good advice on narrowing down the issue. I’ll just say that I don’t think you’ll ever get stability with 8gb for win 11. Ubuntu is going to struggle sometimes with the 4gb left for it too.

I would look into upgrading the ram first. Old laptop ram can be very cheap. I doubled the memory in a laptop for my mom by adding a 16gb stick I got on eBay for $20.

If it has an empty slot just buy an exact copy of the module it has and it will probably work. If both slots are occupied you’ll have to do some research to find the correct modules and it might not be worth the money and hassle.

Others have left some detailed and interesting responses. I’ll keep mine very short.

Drugs.

Talk to your vet about drugs. Some people need anti anxiety meds to function. There are a lot of options to try. I won’t try to convince you of anything specific but I’m sure your vet can provide some options.

Thanks for reading and good luck.

I didn’t see many legitimate answers to your question here so I’ll try. Forget the details such as specific processor and memory. Don’t get lost in the details of this anology.

Imagine you have a very basic computer and a very advanced, powerful computer. You install Lubunutu on each. The basic computer might require 5% of it’s resources just to run the operating system. The advanced computer needs just 0.5% of it’s resources to run the OS.

This sounds like a big difference. 10x more resources required for the basic computer! Really though one has 95% left to run other things and one has 99.5%.

If I gave you two glasses of water that were 95% full and 99.5% full you could easily tell the difference between the two. One is basically overflowing and the other is just full. You wouldn’t describe either as being half full though.

Now imagine you put something like Fedora workstation on that basic computer. This OS is designed for powerful workstations not basic hardware. The basic computer is going to struggle to run it. Let’s say it uses 30% of it’s resources just to run and spikes to 70% usage when you open anything else.

Put that half full glass of water next to the others. Definitely a big difference and you’re going to know it.

Things like Lubunutu aren’t designed to make powerful computers fast it’s meant to make more basic hardware useable. The powerful computer is going to be fast no matter what and you probably want some of the features left out of an OS designed for pure efficiency.

Alpine Linux’s storage requirements are measured in MBs. My router runs a version of Linux. Supercomputers run versions of Linux. Software should be matched to hardware and needs.

Hopefully this helps you!

Hello!

As an American I would strongly recommend against visiting here from Mexico especially if you have never done so before. I have no deep knowledge of the visa system so I can’t help with specifics.

Here is an article about recent detentions of legitimate visa holders.

https://www.axios.com/2025/03/20/tourists-us-residents-detained-arrested-deported-ice-immigration-trump

I read through your post history and I don’t think you are trolling. You apparently represent almost everything being villainized here in the US. A gay Mexican furry is not someone I would recommend interacts with American law enforcement.

As part of entering the US law enforcement will demand to see your social media. They will search your electronics. They will look into your background. American law enforcement and especially our border officers will almost certainly not be friendly to someone like you. If you feel safe visiting the US right now being who you are then you shouldn’t trust your own judgement on this. Talk to you friends about this. Talk to anyone who is telling you it is a bad idea and really listen to them.

Personally I also have concerns about your reason for travel. I can’t believe someone who loves you would encourage this travel. I can’t believe someone living in the US right now would tell you it’s a good place. There are many wonderful, amazing things about the US. There are also terrible things and right now at this moment those bad things are far more important.

I don’t know this person you want to visit. I don’t know you. I’m just a random person on the internet. However, reading some of your posts I would urge caution in this sort of distant relationship. How are your feelings clouding your judgement? Please talk to your friends and if available supportive family about this whole situation. Do not dismiss their concerns if they have any.

Tell him to come visit you or pick a foreign convention to attend together. If he isn’t willing to do that for you then you should be considering what you mean to him.

Please be safe.