You can pick one skill from each row, and they can’t be from the same column.

  • Shelena@feddit.nl
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    16 hours ago

    Lost my little sister to anorexia nervosa. I don’t like that it is presented like a ‘skill’ here. Would you put cancer as a skill in there too?

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      16 hours ago

      I’m sorry to hear that. You have my sympathies.

      This is inspired by disco Elysium which uses things like drug addiction in positive and negative ways. None of the skills are intended as purely positive or negative, I just use that name because that game had also. I think there are things people suffer from that can make them uniquely better equipped for enduring some circumstances that they fight daily that many people couldn’t handle (not that it is a positive aspect in majority).

      And not that it matters to me, but the only reason I felt comfortable including it is because it is part of my life and I have been bullied for it. Yes, if I had cancer I might also put that in as a skill too.

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        6 hours ago

        I am sorry to hear that it is part of your life as well. Bullying someone for that is especially harsh. I am very sorry that happened to you.

        I think that I reacted this way because I saw other memes and stuff making fun of anorexia or treating it very lightly. That hurts when you are still in mourning. I now understand that this is not what you meant to do and I apologize if I responded too angry.

        I think another reason for it is that the picture actually triggered the memory of my sister when she was very ill in the weeks before she died. It is very difficult to explain the mixture of love and horror I felt when seeing her during that time. But your work made me think of it. This is okay, it is part of her and my life and I need to accept that. But I did not expect it and I think that I responded more emotional because of it.

        I think it is in a way very good that you are able to express something that is so complex in a way that I responded to it immediately. I think it shows you have talent. I now think it was not a random trigger, but actually recognition of a shared experience.

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          5 hours ago

          No harm, I didn’t mean to ask for your apology. You didn’t do anything wrong and thankyou for making sure people don’t fetishize mental illness. I consider all your comments respectful.

          Having thought on it I do think my drawing is probably too direct about it for something lacking a context I haven’t added. I think I should have waited until I made some more associated writings so that the nuance in my mind about the topic would have carried across better. Sorry for any distress.

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            1 hour ago

            Usually I am not so direct as I was with this. I am glad you still considered it respectful. I always try to be respectful, but as English is not my mother tongue I am sometimes scared that I miss some nuance or something and come across differently.

            You do not need to apologise either. You have every right to express yourself. Especially when it is something personal. It is not other people’s job not to trigger me. Getting reminded of things like this is just part of life. If you fight it or try to avoid it, it will become worse. So it is fine.

            I wish you a lot of success with making more art!