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      4 days ago

      Hm, got a source for that? It’s not hard to believe, but I’d need a source before i do

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          Well, as a person with adhd and time on my hands because work is slow, I could use some reading materials.

          I believe talking about things that don’t often get mentioned is good. Even if it’s a terrible subject. As long as it’s handle respectfully.

          Also I’m aromantic asexual and not looking for smut.

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            Hi. I don’t have sources but I think it makes sense logically.

            Like if you’re a lesbian and want to be with someone in a society like the one where you can’t have lesbian relationship but a guy can have multiple wives, I think you’d get into the same harem. You’d consider the guy as a cost of being with the one you want.

            And maybe there are good guys too, and they just let you be there and live how you like. I don’t know how prominent arranged marriage is in those cultures, but some guys could be doing that and just sheltering people too.

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              eh I bet they’re all just bitter and don’t like each other and don’t look forward to sex lol

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              4 days ago

              I don’t have sources but I think it makes sense logically.

              pretty sure most women in a polygamy hate being in them, read more than a few articles about first wives then getting put aside for a younger model but they can’t leave because no money (based islam 🙄)

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                That’s most probably true for normal cases. I’m thinking of cases where women like other women. So they don’t want to be intimate with their husband anyway. So him losing interest would work great. So it’d be akin to living with a group of girls and an annoying guy who owns the place. Again I’m just making assumptions.

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                  But the probability you get wed to a guy who sets you aside because bored and then marries your girlfriend out of pure respect to you is very low.

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                I’m not sure “women can’t leave dysfunction relationship because they won’t have income” is a problem unique to Islam.

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        I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s more common than you expect, which is basically none. I sure the women talk about stuff they don’t want their husband to know, and they could be pretty close. Throw in some stress and people start fucking. It’d stay a secret, so I don’t know that we’d know how common it is, but (as a straight man) if I was in a polygamous marriage with one woman but a bunch of men, is seek companionship with the other men in some form at least.