For me it was the fact that I would always be slower than everyone else and I would have to put in twice the effort.

  • SomGye@dormi.zone
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    20 days ago

    Realizing that I’ll never be able to achieve any of my previous hopes or “dreams”, it’s too late, and that life is fundamentally uneven and unfair.
    Similarly, realizing there’s no sense of “karma” or balance in real life, it’s just a crutch that people can use to justify or rationalize things.

  • Inf_V@kbin.earth
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    21 days ago

    probably that the majority of people are self serving and extremely fake. it’s pretty insane how many “activists” there are that hate the people they supposedly want to protect.

  • NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world
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    20 days ago

    It’s been 9 years, I’m married again (happily), and my ex-wife is never coming back.

    It’s difficult to go from best friends who tell eachother everything, to strangers.

    It took a lot of therapy for me to realize that we both played a part in our marriage ending, and it wasn’t all my fault. But, I also learned in the process that my childhood really screwed me up, and I needed to deal with it, and reconcile with the fact that I didn’t have a loving childhood. The abuse, both verbal, physical, and sexual has had a lasting effect on me as an adult.

    But, most importantly, I learned that I can heal from all of it, and grow as a person.

    I think she’s happy now, and so am I. So even though I still miss her once im a while, I know things worked out for the best.

  • Kurtagag@lemmy.caEnglish
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    21 days ago

    I’ll never be the same again after my brain injury.

    In some ways thats a good thing but Im not 100# sure I’ll get all the walking stuff back exactly

  • AtariDump@lemmy.world
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    20 days ago

    1. People die unexpectedly. Tell anyone and everyone that you love verbally that you love them (even if it’s man to man). Don’t leave anyone guessing as to how you felt about them.

    2. Not everyone is a friend for life, even if you’ve been friends for 5/10/20/40/80 years.

    3. People change and you can’t control that.

    4. Recording the people you love speaking; preferably while you ask them about their lives. See #1

      • AtariDump@lemmy.world
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        20 days ago

        Yes.

        Not on that level but I’ve lost a friend because we were both a little stubborn. I’ll be the first to admit I didn’t handle the situation well (granted, we were all drunk).

        But, that friend also needs to acknowledge that they too did not handle what happened in the best way and not double down by threatening to sue other friends that were at the event for a orior year’s issue.

        It’s a giant mess. The last thing I told them ~2.6 years ago was that this didn’t have to be a friendship ending event. And here we are; haven’t spoken since then. Some days I miss them and other days I wonder if I’m better off without them and the energy they bring.