I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!
Because of that I only spoon in space.
You don’t actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner’s shoulders.
Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.
Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn’t die, you don’t get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.
I mean, how serious do you want to get?
wow as a side sleeper that looks amazing. i rotate at night like a 7-11 hot dog i can never stay comfy long so its just round and round all night
Damn that’s slick
You don’t.
That’s the neat part!
I bend my arm and put my hand under my face, thereby converting it into shoulder pain.
There’s nothing more romantic than falling asleep spooning, waking up and softly whispering to your partner “my shoulder’s dislocated, get off me.”
This is the dream ❤️
Along their back or between my legs. Something like this:
If I keep it under their neck, it usually doesn’t fall asleep as fast.
Ah good thought
There’s special pillows designed for this that have a little passthrough for your arm and a small amount of sturdy material so your arm doesn’t get crushed.
Called couples pillows or or cuddle pillows or something like that. I have wanted one for some time.
My ribcage rests on a memory foam pillow. My head rests on a buckwheat pillow. My arm goes in the gap between the two pillows. The buckwheat pillow is easily remoldable so my arm can go underneath and find a good angle without making my head feel unstable.
Took me a while to figure out too! Turns out, it’s easier for the smaller person to be a big spoon.
If you’re larger than your partner, lay lower in the bed compared to your partner. Your face should be at their back. Pull that cushion down with you to help your neck. If they curl up a little, your arm can bend a bit forwards as it ends up at their legs, and it won’t fall asleep at all.
Happy napping! 😉
Also called “jetpacking” (especially if the smaller person is gassy).
Sometimes sacrifices must be made.
I build a bridge out of our pillows. Two bor the base, then one spanning a small gap. I put my Earthward arm’s hand up the the gap and my head on the bridge pillow.
Nothing falls asleep improperly.
The spoons are the same size. Two different size spoons don’t fit against eachother.
