My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
I’m curious to learn what you think about your username in this context? What crime are you partner in and is it only breaking a partnership that is an unforgivable crime?
Are you a whale, Ross?
Yes. Now your turn, my morally incorruptible dude.
Cool. I also love lying to make a point
Jaywalking. I’ll be your partner in jaywalking cause it was made up by the motor industry to pass on pedestrians getting hit onto the pedestrian instead of the driver
To bad you’ll never get to experience it though, being your a whale and all
I’m not the one that is making claims of perfection on people. You are. It seems to me you are not living up to your own high standards on others though.
But it is ok. Again, see point 2.
Im not saying people have to be perfect. Cheating with your assistant is faaaar from perfect though.
Get a divorce and move on. To show your kid the right way in life. Dude failed that though. Showed his child that family is nothing. And the child is now supposed to just continue being family with him cause he’s fun
They should be having thier mother’s back, as they didn’t go an do one of the lowest things you can do in a marriage
Yeah, the father made a mistake. You’re the one that conflates making a mistake with an oopsie, nobody else has made that equivalence. Mistakes can be big and they can take lots of effort to correct. OP will surely deal with this in their own time and way with all the complex and contradictory and painful thoughts emotions.
But - OP is not an adult when living with their parents. Children or young adults are not adults. They have a dependency on their parents. OP is not responsible for their father. OP should not be required to take responsibility for their father’s mistakes. OP is getting caught in the middle of the worst conflict a child can be caught up in and they did nothing to deserve it.
I think what you are doing is projecting high moral ideals into this that are inconsiderate regarding the consequences when OP is asking for help and advice and support. This is the last thing OP needs right now and it is not helping them in any way. OP is in a moment of crisis.
Discuss morality all you want but this is the wrong context for it.
? It was literally point number 3 you made. How people make mistakes and it happens
The OP asked if they should have their mother’s back even though it means not having their best friend
Yes. Their best friend stooped to one of the lowest places they can go and now they want to stand by them. If they do, theyre are bad by association and deserve their mother eventually not talking to them either.
Edit: if he’s such a best friend, he’ll make amends with her even if they choose their mother right now.
That’s you reading it that way and others not. Maybe this is your point two playing tricks on you now?
Dude, I don’t know if you are consciously cherry picking to win this argument or if any best interest of OP simply does not exist for you.
Regardless, I have no interest in discussing this further with you as it seems to be a self fulfilling purpose disconnected from the original post. I’m out.