My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

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    Point number 2. Read it again.

    As of why, we can only speculate. Sometimes a disaster is what is required to get things happening that should have been over a long time ago.

    They are living together already, so it was not only to get laid.

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        4 days ago

        Exactly. She moved in after. You are absolutely correct. 10/10 reading comprehension.

        It would be unusual if she moved in before the ex wife moved out.

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              No, I misread the final sentence. I still agree with everything I said, it was just slightly out of context so I withdrew it

              But go off just being a dick

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                Right. I’m the dick that says op should not let themselves be caught in the middle of their parents messy divorce in ways that they might regret later in life and you are the one advocating op go no contact despite us not knowing barely anything about what has been going on or why because this is your hill to show off your moral high ground and insert yourself in some drama that you are immune of consequences. Sure, dude. I’m the dick.

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                  Im not saying go no contact forever. I’ve said previously they should have their mother’s back until he can genuinely say sorry and start the healing process

                  Right now everyone here is advocating for shitting on the mother in her most vulnerable state. Because the dad is fun

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                    I’m sure it is hard for Mom right now, but she’s not in the room, so, we’re focusing on OPs well being.

                    It is not the kid’s responsibility to be their parent’s support team.

                    It is not the kid’s responsibility to dispense justice for the other parent.

                    Just because OP is the only character in this story we can interact with, it doesn’t mean that they need to right every wrong in it.

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                Yeah, I get you and I agree. I already mentioned in another comment that OP is included in point two and it is ok that they have strong feelings about this. It grinds my gears though when people on social media go full binary in driving other people’s lives into the gutter because they can project themselves as morally superior or whatever other reason. That’s me point two right there.