My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

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    4 days ago

    The demand for no contact is extreme and controlling behaviour and not something I would agree with based on the information provided.

    Marriage breakdowns happen, by itself that isn’t a reason to ruin a parent-child relationship.

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      4 days ago

      Yeah i can see wanting to do it of your own volition, my brother went the same way, but having one parent ask that of you is something else.

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      3 days ago

      It’s extreme if it continues. Lashing out emotionally in response to being hurt isnt that crazy.