• grrgyle@slrpnk.net
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      23 hours ago

      The 90s: I used to use it back in the day, until one time I volunteered for a handicapped kids event, and saw how this one kid with Downs got really upset at someone calling him “the ‘R’ word” (I had never heard it put that way, or even considered it as truly harmful).

      Anyway, I wiped it from my vocabulary after that. I still consider it a slur, unlike idiot, which is more generic, and not used as a specific slur against intellectually disabled folks.

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        Yeah, clearly many people in this thread have never spent any time around people with disabilities, it doesn’t take long to feel an innate disgust for the word and anyone who uses it, short of technical/scientific usages.

        You’ve all been able to say it this whole time, just a lot of people agreed it makes you a shithead. That hasn’t changed, and it’s familiar territory for Rogan, so this is no surprise.

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        23 hours ago

        Good on you for making that change, and having empathy for others.

        Idiot has the same entomology as retard though, does it not? As does stupid? They all start as medical diagnoses and then assholes turn them to slurs and then the medical field refines and renames and things start to repeat.

        We had special education class, Special Ed, for kids struggling in certain ways, so if course the shitty kids would call kids “sp-ed” because of course they would.

        I’m not sure when the line gets crossed or if we should have gone back or what, but retard, to me, has a very particular connotation that is useful for describing certain people’s actions. I don’t do it any more because I’d rather live in a peaceful society that fosters respect, but it is one of those things I “don’t get”

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          22 hours ago

          The euphemism treadmill.

          (I think the conversation here is more about etymology than entomology)

          “Sped” is often how teachers refer to special education now too. I was a “sped teacher” for a bit. Referring to a child as “sped” would be gross and dehumanizing, but I think referring to a “sped class” isn’t considered pejorative.

          It’s weird how worked up people get about “political correctness.” If you call someone ‘r-tarded’ you’re doing it to upset them, and you are also communicating that the status of having an intellectual disability is so degrading to be considered an insult. I’ve worked with lots of intellectually disabled adults and children - I don’t know that I would want to compare those people I loved and cared for to someone that I would want to insult.

    • katy ✨@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      i mean it is ONLY used to mock a very specific group of people and, historically, it was used to incarcerate and experiment on them.

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          But language changes and evolves, and words get imbued with additional meanings over time through a bunch of complicated factors and contexts.

          Just because ‘idiot’ and ‘retard’ were used similarly once, doesn’t mean they’re the same now

          We don’t need to fully understand the process in which the word has changed to know that lots of people find it particularly insulting, degrading and oppressive, and to decide to stop using it because of this

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          It is how you use it, even if you don’t mean to.

          If you use ‘gay’ as an insult, that doesn’t become OK if you only say it to straight people. It’s still some massive drive by homophobia.

          The reason to stop using this as an insult isn’t to protect the people you’re insulting, it’s to protect a third group which has a dark history with the word

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        That exactly is the verb (“to retard”). You might mean the noun “a retard” which does not have good uses I can think of.

        Retardant, retardation, retarding, retarded and a ton of other drives words also do indeed have actual real world meanings and uses that have nothing to do with humans.

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      Honestly, calling this admin retarded is valid because a lot of them genuinely seem to have an IQ low enough to get that medical diagnosis.

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      the difference between autistic and retarded is that autistic people can actually fight back and say that the use of autistic hurts people

      Unfortunately retarded people can’t really do that, have to be the face and name called out at anything an individual thinks of as dumb

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        Yeah, it’s definitely not cool to use this word against mentally difficient people. It’s exactly the same as calling them “morons” or “idiots”.

        Mentally disabled people are often such kind souls. They don’t need that.

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        What? No.

        Clearly you do not know anything at all about those two groups or the myriad of different functional levels the can come with those diagnoses.

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          Here is a thought experiment, do I need to know someone or something to use their condition as an insult?

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            Nah you dont.

            The way you are using your narrow minded view of autism and the mentally handicapped is not only highly offensive, its also wrong. I have personally worked with and cared for people on the autism spectrum from the level of “nonverbal infant level” all the way to certified savant. Its a spectrum for a reason. I have also cared for people, for literal years, who are diagnosed retarded that are more capable and more functional than the “normal” people i see at walmart. And also hold steady jobs better than their non deficent coworkers.

            Heres a thought experiment for you. If the things you say are so blatantly wrong that you get downvoted, called out, and ignored for your offensive views, but still want to double down, are you yourself retarded?

            I dont know you. And i dont know your mental acuity. But i am using that word as an insult. That should answer your question i think.

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              You may introduce yourself as someone knowledgeable, I don’t give a shit, the word is frequently used has gotten bad connotations and influences how others think

              I’m sure you’re a good person but you are trying to keep the use of a word up with no reason, using your experience simply to back up that these people are more than what their words claim to be, then using the public’s view of me against me without a proper answer

              I don’t see these people as ill in the head, others may, but I don’t, and words DO hurt and they should stop being used

              Stop being a dick over a word that gives bad rep to people you personally interacted with and no benefits from its use.

              I am not going to change my mind, saying ‘retard’ and ‘austistic’ as an insult is bad and has its more decent alternatives, English doesn’t need to use very personal conditions as insults to begin with. why on earth are you DEFENDING ITS USE?

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                Bud im not saying that these words are not bad. I never said they weren’t. They are. Im saying that these words have power. Im hoping you get that now, especially now that ive hit a nerve enough, that maybe you can learn off of what you said in your initial comment.

                Im asserting that your broad generalizations are equally bad. The spectrum of autism, retardation, and mental handicaps as a whole are so much bigger and more diverse than the assumptions you made. Thats my message. Thats the point im trying to speak. I hope you can eventually see that.

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          And i mean, you can make that argument if you want, but then like, where do we stop? Is telling people to kill themselves morally unacceptable

          Yes. 🤦 Jfc, “asking me not to use a slur against disabled people is a slippery slope to asking me not to tell people to kill themselves.” Fucking, good!

          Btw, you can make your argument if you want, but then like, where do we stop? If I call a straight person the f-slur, is that acceptable? I’m not actually saying it at a gay person, I’m just insulting someone by suggesting that they’re gay. Is it ok for a white person to tell another white person they’re acting like an n-word? Exactly how far are you willing to take this bullshit?

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            Yes. 🤦 Jfc, “asking me not to use a slur against disabled people is a slippery slope to asking me not to tell people to kill themselves.” Fucking, good!

            how many times do i have to explain that im not using it against disabled people.

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              I like how you completely ignored my arguments.

              Is it acceptable for a white person to tell another white person they’re “acting like an [n-word]?” Yes or no.

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                it wasn’t good, you just threw some shit in a bowl and went “ooh argument”

                Is it acceptable for a white person to tell another white person they’re “acting like an [n-word]?” Yes or no.

                again, i’m not saying that people are acting like retards, i’m calling them one. There’s a contextual difference that you don’t seem to understand.

                Now if we’re going to fix that argument for you, free of charge you would say something like “is it ok for a white person to call another white person the N word?” could go either way depending on the context. Heavily context dependent usage.

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                  I’ve got no stick in this fight but just wanted to chime in and say you’re losing this argument buddy

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                  God, what a shit perspective.

                  Comparing someone to a category as an insult is also insulting the people in that category regardless of whether the person it’s directed at is part of the category or not. Calling a white person the n-word is offensive to black people, calling a straight person the f-slur is offensive to gay people, and calling neurotypical people the r-slur is offensive to the mentally disabled.

                  If I call you a “pasta eater” it would only work as an insult if there’s an unstated assumption that eating pasta is bad. If I call you “gay” it only works an insult with the unstated assumption that being gay is bad. This isn’t rocket science.