• pelespirit@sh.itjust.worksM
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    4 months ago

    This quote by [email protected] is a good thing to keep in mind. I’m not going to lock it because it genuinely seems to be helping some people. I’m getting reports though, so remember to be excellent to each other please.

    this comment section is a memorial of injured experiences.

    tread carefully.

    Edit: fixed author’s username.

  • Blemmyes@lemm.ee
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    5 days ago

    When I got home after being away for a few months my mom said I got a little fatter. Told her the same thing, and she told me I can’t say such things…

  • copymyjalopy@sh.itjust.works
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    4 months ago

    A few years ago I was struggling with body image and was starting to feel worthless and invisible in my marriage. When I tried expressing these feelings to my wife (really just trying to make an emotional connection) her response was curt and to the point: “You don’t have body image issues. I’m the one struggling with my weight.”

    And that was it. I’ve never felt more alone in my life.

  • StopTouchingYourPhone@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    “Why are men in general so emotionally constipated? omg stop crying like a pussy; we just asked a question!” - the patriarchy, oppressing us all

    • Kecessa@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      This has nothing to do with men being in position of power, this has everything to do with people having no empathy. If we lived in a matriarchy and people acted the same way they would still be assholes.

      • Binette@lemmy.ml
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        4 months ago

        Patriarchy says that men can’t be “soft” because that’s a womanly trait, and women are inferior.

          • Binette@lemmy.ml
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            4 months ago

            By patriarchy, I mean it in the context of feminism, as in the ideology that attempts to rationalize the idea of that men are better than woman, by using things such as religion, bioessentialism, and more. There are many definitions.

              • Binette@lemmy.ml
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                4 months ago

                Toxic masculinity is an effect of the patriarchy. These are the toxic traits that eminate from masculinity as defined by the patriarchy.

                But hey at this point we’re arguing about semantics. There are traits that men and women are taught as being bad to do as men, even though some of those traits are actually necessary, or just part of someone’s personality.