Why do people think having kids will solve problems for themselves/others 😂
It’ll solve your problems by giving you more important problems to distract you from them until your memory of who you miss being fades.
I mean, if you have kids you can have LAN parties with them. 🤷🏻♂️
If you go directly for a partner who games you can skip the kids and save the time and money needed for gaming. ;-)
Played minecraft over lan for the first time around christmas with the kids ( 8, 6 and 5 ).
It was awesome until our youngest figured out how to pour lava on everyones buildings and refused to stop.
They can live vicariously through their kids and to try and make them into the person they never got to be? I don’t actually know.
I had 11 years basically stolen from me when I married my first wife. She went from “spent time with your friends” to “you spend time with me now” almost overnight. No more LAN parties, no more gaming (because her brother got addicted to WoW and therefore gaming = bad), no hanging out with friends unless she ok’d it (spoiler: never happened), etc.
I should have left, but as a naive Mormon kid, I thought that’s just how it was supposed to be.
I’ve since renounced any religion and am happily remarried. I game with my brothers and occasionally random strangers. It’s great fun, and I can involve my kids.
LAN parties were great. We’re living like shit without them.
Source: have wife and kid, still miss it
I know a couple guys I went to HS with that never moved on. 40 year old, single, stoner gamers, working minimum wage jobs. I mean I’m still a stoner and a gander but I got a career and a family now
That’s probably because it easier to not “move on”. Having a family is responsibility not many people can handle - even those that have it can’t handle it. Society pressures us into something we cant handle and it can end badly. I say fuck it, if they want to play games all day and flip burgers, let them. I’m personally not pursuing “the family life” because I don’t think I’d be good at it and I dont think I could handle the stress. I make more money than most do, I have no responsibilities, no debt and no obligations so Im the outsider because family means something different to me. If I ever feel different, I’ll move on when I want. It doesnt make sense to just do it at an arbitrary age set by society.
I think this should not be viewed negatively. There’s this pressure to ‘grow up’ and have a stable job and a family that many people don’t fit into. I find it super hard to decouple the stuff I do because i want to and the stuff I do because it is ingrained in my by our societal expectations.
